By Joanna Teigen, Crosswalk.com
“Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commandments.” (Deuteronomy 7:9)
“‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.” (Ephesians 5:31-32)
God has chosen to display his covenant of love to his people through the faithful, sacrificial devotion of a husband and wife. This great mystery adds deep meaning to every aspect of your life together. The vows you take on your wedding day give a glimpse of Jesus’ infinite love to each of us who trust in him.
These 10 prayers embrace the beauty of God’s love revealed in your promises to one another. Invite him into your marriage as you celebrate the joy of your wedding day.
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1. To Have and to Hold
We thank you for uniting us in marriage today. The joy of our love is a priceless gift from your hand. Just as you keep your covenant of love to us, may we keep our vows to one another and to you. Make us like Jesus, who “is trustworthy in all he promises and faithful in all he does.” (Psalm 145:13)
Give us strength to hold fast to each other all the days of our life. Sustain an unshakeable resolve to overcome doubt, temptation, and fear when our bond is tested. Use our marriage to testify to the world that your love never fails. Amen.
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2. In Sickness and in Health
As we begin our journey of marriage, we commit our physical, emotional, and spiritual selves to you. Fill us with strength to work hard and build a home together. Protect us from illness and injury. Give us wisdom and self-control to honor our bodies as temples of your Spirit. Teach us to love by nourishing, nurturing, and shielding each other from harm.
Humble our hearts to depend on you when we face trials of weakness and pain. Bring encouragement when we’re sick at heart and low in spirit. Sustain us with energy in times of fatigue and stress. Show us how to care for one another patiently, serving as your hands of healing and help. May we praise your name in both sickness and in health, trusting you’re in control. Amen.
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3. For Richer or for Poorer
You’re the source of all we have. Teach us to depend on you, believing, “the eyes of all look to you, and you give them their food at the proper time. You open your hand and satisfy the desires of every living thing.” (Psalm 145:15-16) Let us hold on to childlike faith as we trust you—our Father--to provide for all our needs.
Let us be content with your gifts, free from worry, greed, and jealousy. Guard our hearts from craving more and more so we’re grateful and joyful all the time. In times of difficulty or want, grow our faith in you as our Father, Giver, and Friend. Be the strength of our heart and our portion forever. (Psalm 73:26) Amen.
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4. For Better, for Worse
As we begin our new life together, the future looks bright. Thank you for all the joys and adventures you have in store. Let us take hold of the abundant life you promise, savoring every blessing and praising your name through it all.
Even as we rejoice in your gifts, prepare us to meet the challenges we’ll face. Give us courage to tackle hardship and struggles without giving up. Teach us to work as a team so we can overcome every difficulty side by side. Fill us with mercy and compassion when we suffer grief and loss. Let us find greater strength in life together—and with you—than we could know alone. Amen.
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5. Two are Better than One
In your great wisdom you created marriage for our good. “Two are better than one, because we will have a good return for our labor. If either of us falls down, one can help the other up. If the two of us lie down together, we’ll find warmth and comfort we could never find alone. When we’re threatened by trouble or enemies, the two of us can find strength and power side by side. As you knit our lives together in Christ, our cord of three strands will remain unbroken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)
Make us one in every way. Let us share our work to build a life that lasts. When one of us stumbles over sorrow and trouble, may we offer reassurance and a helping hand. Make our marriage a place of joy and intimacy in a cold and lonely world. Give us strength no matter what we face. Amen.
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6. To Love and to Cherish
No matter what we achieve in our lives, we have nothing without love. We pray for the Spirit’s fruit of love in our hearts. Give us patience that shows mercy when we fail. Teach us gentleness and self-control to speak with kindness and respect at all times. Guard us from pride that demands our own way. Purify our hearts from selfishness so we will help, serve, and give with cheerful hearts.
Enable us to forgive one another as you have forgiven us. (Colossians 3:13) Keep us from anger and bitterness that will bring division and pain to our marriage. Let us continually face forward, leaving the hurts and mistakes of the past behind. Fill our home with truth and integrity as we live by your Word. Make us worthy of trust and honor, persevering in our love until the end. Amen.
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7. Where You Go, I Will Go
This wedding day marks the beginning of a journey you planned for each of us before time. Our lives are in your hands, and we commit to follow wherever you lead. “Let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.” (Hebrews 12:1-2) Knit our hearts together so we follow you as one.
Keep us from turning aside to go our own way. Make us like-minded, with shared hopes, dreams, and resolve for the future. May we never urge one another to turn back from you. But where one of us is called to go, the other will go, and where one is led to stay, the other will gladly stay. Let us embrace one another’s friends and family as our own. Fill us with a deep faith in you that abides for all time. (Ruth 1:16-17) Unite us on the same path until we see you face to face. Amen.
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8. Forsaking All Others
“Your love, Lord, reaches to the heavens, your faithfulness to the skies.” (Psalm 36:5). You never leave us, forget us, or turn us away. No one will ever snatch us out of your hand. (John 10:28) Just as you are faithful to us for all time, make us loyal to one another.
Elevate our marriage so we hold each other above any other human relationship. Humble our hearts to put aside any goals, activities, or temptations that compete for our devotion. Keep our focus on the unity of our home, attentively ministering to one another’s heart, mind, and spirit. Create an unbreakable bond as we join our lives together today. Amen.
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9. 'Til Death Do Us Part
On this joyful day we dream of sharing a long life together. While death will separate loved ones in the end, we recognize other threats to our union even now. We pray for grace and help as you make us one, that nothing and no one will break us apart.
Shield us from the enemy of our souls, whose lies will attack our hope and commitment to one another. Keep us from the traps of busyness, pride, and self-love that will crush our devotion to each other and to you. Purify our hearts and minds so we remain faithful and uncorrupted. Silence those who would stir up division in our home or tempt us to break our vows in any way. Join us in mind, body, and spirit to live in the beauty of oneness all the days of our lives. Amen.
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10. What God Has Joined
We believe you are the author of our story and the creator of our marriage. In your holiness and power you will make us one flesh all the days of our lives. You call us to faithful love that never fails. We praise you for joining us together as one.
Give us courage to fight for our love when this broken world tries to tear us apart. Bring support and encouragement from friends and family who care for us. Surround us with mature, godly couples who provide an example to follow. Shield us from the enemy’s lies that tempt us to doubt or betray our covenant to one another. “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Mark 10:9) Amen.
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May God Bless Your Marriage
The satin, lace, and pearls will soon be packed away. Flowers will fade and music will grow still. Gifts will be opened and thank you notes sent. Yet even as the wedding celebration becomes a sweet memory, your covenant promises endure for always.
May you receive every blessing together as you commit your way to the Lord. Find hope in his divine power that gives you everything you need for a godly life through your knowledge of him who called you by his own glory and goodness. (2 Peter 1:2-3) As God enables you to keep your vows, may his love fill your home with joy.
Joanna Teigen and her husband Rob have shared over 25 years of marriage and life with five kids, plus a beautiful daughter-in-law. They’re a neat-freak married to a mess, an explorer to a homebody, and an introvert to a ‘people person.’ But they agree their vows are for always, children are a gift, and prayer is powerful.
Joanna is the co-author of Mr. and Mrs., 366 Devotions for Couples, A Mom’s Prayers for Her Son, and a variety of other resources for couples and parents. She looks forward to meeting you at GrowingHomeTogether.com.
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